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The (Edited) War on Men

8 Dec

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When Fox News released an Op-Ed, called the War on Men, it became an anger-inducing, viral sensation. The author argued that women don’t get married anymore because men are pissed off at feminism. Specifically, men feel that “women aren’t women anymore.”

She argued that in order to get married, women needed to surrender to their femininity and assure men of their bread-winning status. She states that, “the so-called rise of women has not threatened men. It has pissed them off. It has also undermined their ability to become self-sufficient in the hopes of someday supporting a family. Men want to love women, not compete with them. They want to provide for and protect their families – it’s in their DNA. But modern women won’t let them.”

Understandably, the article made a lot of women upset (me included), so the author recently posted an article to clarify what she had meant. She argues that men and women are fundamentally different, no matter what feminists say. A woman’s success in the workplace does threaten men, so don’t brag about it. A man can’t get pregnant so success in the workplace is all he’s got, allow him to provide.

“Just because you make your own money doesn’t mean your guy can’t pay the bill. Just because you value independence doesn’t mean you can’t take your husband’s last name. Just because you can do the same job a man can do doesn’t mean you need to let him know it.”

She goes on to say that surrendering to your femininity means being ok with the guy being in charge. We’re equal, but he doesn’t need to know it. Even though this article isn’t as provocative as the first, I’m still dissatisfied.

Women can play whatever role they want to in a marriage, and if the guy is truly right for them it shouldn’t cause friction. A wife being happy about a promotion or excited about a project at work shouldn’t damage her marriage. Neither should the decision for the wife or the husband to be a stay-at-home parent.

The same argument is at play: that the woman shouldn’t express her desires or successes if she wants her relationship to work.

My argument is that traditional gender roles shouldn’t dominate the success of a marriage. The love and commitment of the two partners should.

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Ke$ha’s Advice to Jenelle Evans

8 Dec

I have found this article that corresponds to my previous post about “Teen Mom 2” star Jenelle Evans choosing a Ke$sha concert over handling her legal troubles. The popstar was recently asked about what she thought of Evans doing this. The singer responded by saying “She is the reason I do what I do. Go grrrl don’t let the man hold you down! We R Who We R!!!!” She is basically condoning the actions taken by Evans. This is very disturbing to me because Evans is not just some young girl that can do whatever she wants. She is a mother and her first responsibility and priority should be her child. It is really troubling to me that two starts like Evans and Ke$ha are condoning such irresponsible behavior. They are admired by many young girls and are seen as role models. This is such a bad example for young girls. What do you all think of this? Was Evans right in the way she handled her situation? Should singer Ke$ha have condoned this behavior?

 

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Ke$ha Concert More Important Than Jail

8 Dec

In a recent episode of “Teen Mom 2” teen mom Jenelle Evans is told that she will face jail time because of a violation of her probation. Evans had failed a drug test. Her probation officer wanted her to enter jail the same day as a concert that she had planned on going to. Jenelle tried to convince her lawyer to request another time for her to go to jail so she could attend the concert. Her lawyer told her that a concert was not a priority and that she should take the fact that she was facing jail time more seriously. Evans continued to argue that singer Ke$ha was her idol and that she could not miss the concert. Later in the next episode Evans failed another drug test and was immediately arrested. A friend posted bail for her. The next day she was urged by her lawyer to come see him immediately to go over her options. However, she did not and instead went to the Ke$ha concert.

I thought this topic was interesting considering the presentation that a class member gave over shows such as Teen Mom. I think this is a clear example of how these girls can be bad role models for young people. There are more important things in life that a concert. Especially something like jail! In my opinion, her first priority should have been to figure out a way to avoid jail time so that she would not have to leave her child. What do you all think about this? Watch this video and let me know what you think!