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The (Edited) War on Men

8 Dec

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When Fox News released an Op-Ed, called the War on Men, it became an anger-inducing, viral sensation. The author argued that women don’t get married anymore because men are pissed off at feminism. Specifically, men feel that “women aren’t women anymore.”

She argued that in order to get married, women needed to surrender to their femininity and assure men of their bread-winning status. She states that, “the so-called rise of women has not threatened men. It has pissed them off. It has also undermined their ability to become self-sufficient in the hopes of someday supporting a family. Men want to love women, not compete with them. They want to provide for and protect their families – it’s in their DNA. But modern women won’t let them.”

Understandably, the article made a lot of women upset (me included), so the author recently posted an article to clarify what she had meant. She argues that men and women are fundamentally different, no matter what feminists say. A woman’s success in the workplace does threaten men, so don’t brag about it. A man can’t get pregnant so success in the workplace is all he’s got, allow him to provide.

“Just because you make your own money doesn’t mean your guy can’t pay the bill. Just because you value independence doesn’t mean you can’t take your husband’s last name. Just because you can do the same job a man can do doesn’t mean you need to let him know it.”

She goes on to say that surrendering to your femininity means being ok with the guy being in charge. We’re equal, but he doesn’t need to know it. Even though this article isn’t as provocative as the first, I’m still dissatisfied.

Women can play whatever role they want to in a marriage, and if the guy is truly right for them it shouldn’t cause friction. A wife being happy about a promotion or excited about a project at work shouldn’t damage her marriage. Neither should the decision for the wife or the husband to be a stay-at-home parent.

The same argument is at play: that the woman shouldn’t express her desires or successes if she wants her relationship to work.

My argument is that traditional gender roles shouldn’t dominate the success of a marriage. The love and commitment of the two partners should.

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Are Women in the Media Only Portrayed As Sex Icons?

6 Dec

We’ve discussed in class on numerous occasions the differences in how men and women are portrayed in the media. This article discusses a couple of studies that point out how women are more likely to be portrayed as “sex icons” versus anything else.The article also discusses MissRepresentation and how it is good at pointing out the sexist media to women who may not have noticed.

“The media is a powerful instrument of change and change can only occur once we are able to see the type of force this tool has cast on society. It’s up to us women to use the force of media to influence positive change and correct the representation of women.”

prepare to start behind…

25 Oct

Female workers continue to financially lag behind, earning roughly 79 cents for every dollar their male colleagues earn.  (That’s an increase of a penny from the 2009 survey.  YAY!  Ahem.)

Where did the gap happen?  When did it start?

A new study, conducted by the American Association of University Women, concludes that women in the workplace didn’t just gradually slide behind over the course of their careers.  Rather (and more alarmingly) they contend that women begin their careers being compensated less than their male counterparts, right from the start, even in female-dominated areas, such as teaching.

Feel free to discuss in the comments.